Nothing teaches you to put yourself first like reaping the harsh consequences of putting yourself last for far too long
Hi, I’m Violet
This is my story...
I must caveat that this is a lengthy story, however, I don’t feel I’d be doing it justice unless I shared it in its entire unfolding as this is often how the decent into chronic illness looks like for many. Firstly though, I’ll quickly share a little about me so you can get to know me and understand why I chose this line of work and how I came to be here. I’m wife to my soul mate and husband whom I met at 17, a big music, nature and animal lover, cat mama, photographer and busy home educating mum to two wonderfully bright girls. I live for spring and summer and I am drawn to the quiet magic of the outdoors - bushwalks, picnics, ocean swims or watching storms roll in with quiet reverence. I’m an old soul and have a penchant for thrifting and finding old vintage things, there’s just something special about things from times gone by. I’m also a Homeopath, certified Mind-body practitioner and the founder of Kyndred Wellness, located on the Sunshine Coast of QLD Australia. I am currently deepening my knowledge of homeopathic medicine with an advanced practitioners degree through RMDY Academy and offer virtual consultations online for people all around the world. Before I was pulled into the holistic health space I was working selling my art and helping others in the new age space through intuitive tarot readings. I loved the intuitive work for a while but found I wasn’t helping people as much as I hoped and instead of empowering them they came to rely on me for any life choice or decision that came their way so I gave it up. I have 10 years professional background in the health industry on the opposite side of the coin in pharmacy and I have a special interest in complex and chronic health challenges having navigated chronic illness myself for over a decade which lead me to becoming a practitioner of homeopathic medicine after other modalities failed to work. I do work a little differently to other homeopaths as I don’t just offer homeopathy but blend homeopathic treatment with mind-body medicine and nervous system regulation tools to best support your body’s natural capacity to heal, adapt and thrive.
I didn’t take the straight path to get here. For over a decade I was sick from what turned out to be MCAS and a mind-body illness called TMS (Tension Myositis Syndrome), although I didn’t know that at the time. These types of syndromes, I believe, make up a lot of mystery/chronic pain and illness cases, yet many people don’t know much about them. I spent thousands of dollars and so much time jumping doctor to doctor trying to figure out the cause of all of my mystery symptoms. It was one hell of a rough and costly ride. Clients come to see me because I have lived experience of similar issues they are navigating and I know what it takes to get to the other side. I also know what happens when you don’t listen to your body. Living 10 years with chronic invisible illness has taught me grit and determination I never knew I had as well as a deep respect for the complex connection between body and mind. That understanding now shapes everything I do from my day to day activities to helping clients to tune in, listen and create real change rather than just pushing through because my story really is a testament to what happens if you don’t.
This work is deeply personal for me. When I hit 30 my health became a mess. On the outside I looked like I was doing fine but on the inside I was crumbling and suffering with 30+ symptoms I’d never experienced before. Daily symptoms for me included tinnitus, dizziness, migraines, hair loss, fatigue, POTS, recurring sinus infections, weakened immunity, hives and itching. As if that wasn’t enough, I had major gut issues and a list of food intolerances so long I got down to just being able to eat chicken and lettuce for years. I tried everything to heal during this time including acupuncture, nutritionists, had allergy testing, reflexology, reiki, herbal medicine, naturopathy, osteopathy, bioenergetics, tried ayurvedic medicine, coffee enemas, hypnosis you name it - I tried it! I even went and saw a psychic I was so desperate to heal. Some of these modalities helped mildly or gave temporary relief but none of them helped me get my life back like nervous system work and homeopathy did. I eventually figured out that it wasn’t my hormones, it wasn’t parasites or my diet. It was my nervous system that was driving EVERYTHING and I was looking in all the wrong places.
let me explain.
For years I ran on stress biology without even realising it. Family dysfunction. Childhood trauma. Work demands. Running a household. Kids. Financial pressure. The never ending mental load of being a mum - the one who remembers everything, plans everything and holds it all together for everyone. I thought I was ‘handling’ it but I wasn’t. My body was absorbing every stressful assault and storing it. Building up a debt that I didn’t even realise I was accumulating and when I hit 30 the bill for that ignorance came knocking. My system hit capacity and my body began shutting down. It all started with an argument that lead to me becoming estranged from my parents that really was the straw that broke the camels back. The emotional toll, stress and grief from that was just too much and my body couldn’t cope with the pain. Immediately afterwards my immune system crashed and I got recurring sinus infections so bad I resulted in getting surgery and then we found black mould in our home and that was the last assault my poor delicate body could handle and with it came the crushing fatigue, hair loss, thyroid issues, candida, brain fog, unexplained pain, itching, vestibular migraines and weight loss that had me nearly end up on feeding tubes. I saw multiple immunologists and specialists trying to work out what was happening and was handed baby formula and a prescription for antihistamines and sent on my way. After 6 months of barely surviving my new hell I went back to the immunologist weighing just 45 kilos to ask why I wasn’t feeling any better. and he finally exasperatingly said “I can’t help you, you’re going to have to learn to live with it”. I thought, that’s it? You charge me $700 for each appointment hand me baby formula to live on and a script for antihistamines and that’s all you can do? I knew there had to be answers out there somewhere.
I was crushed but also determined to figure out what was going on. There was no way I was living on barely any food, stuck with uncomfortable symtptoms, unable to drive and being confined to my bed or house forever. I read every book on healing I could find and was often up late googling symptoms and deep diving various health threads in hopes I could find someone like me. Oddly, one day in my research I came across a woman on YouTube that shared her journey about being stuck eating only a handful of foods after mould exposure and she talked about completing the Gupta nervous system program and gaining her health back. This was the first I had heard about nervous system regulation and brain retraining techniques. I watched her go from skinny and barely able to eat anything to thriving and being able to eat everything. Wondering if this could help me I searched the web for other programs that may be able to help and signed up to the Primal Trust program. Within weeks my symptom severity decreased and I realised I had more capacity for living again. I still couldn’t eat anything but two foods but at least my symptoms calmed and I could now drive and walk to my letterbox again. Life seemed okay again.. until my dog passed away, we moved cities, financial strain hit and my sister got diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and again my world was rocked by stress and symptoms were back. Sick of this one step forward and 4 steps back dance that was playing out in my wellness journey I prayed to God to help me find the person who would finally lead me out of this hell once and for all and the very next day I found a lady on instagram talking about healing with homeopathy. That lady turned out to be Melissa Kupsch and I immediately booked a consult with her. Two years of ongoing treatment later and I was beginning to eat food again and had better energy than ever so I signed up to study homeopathy with her as my mentor. Shortly after, I started studying how to manage living with Mast Cell Activation Syndrome and began my practitioners certification in mind-body medicine to really get serious about learning when I realised how badly stress seemed to affect me. I always felt my stress response was lower than others, like they could handle life better and I wanted to understand why. It turns out childhood trauma was the reason for this reduced tolerance and so I embarked on healing that wound. Homeopathy in conjunction with nervous system support was the only thing that got me over the line to beginning to lead a normal life again. Within a year of studying and continuing to treat myself homeopathically with the information I was learning as a student I was back at the gym and jetting off on trips overseas, things I never thought would be possible for me to do ever again.
All of this nightmare is what happens when your stress response gets stuck in the “on” position and no amount of supplements, detoxes, acupuncture sessions or medications will fix it. When I finally linked stress to my symptoms I became aware of the mind-body connection and its deep impact on our vitality and health. You have to address the nervous system to heal from chronic conditions. Homeopathy is fabulous at helping the body stimulate its natural healing response while also stabilising the nervous system. Homeopathy addresses how the body holds experiences and it restores emotional and energetic balance from the inside out. It’s not about treating disease or chasing after symptoms but addressing causations. People are like instruments that have become out of tune due to life’s ups and downs and very often your body is manifesting symptoms as a way of communicating this imbalance. After experiencing stress, overwhelm and chronic health challenges it took me years to realise there’s a missing piece to the healing puzzle and it involves the health of your nervous system. I hope to save others from this lengthy lesson. Had I known this from the outset I could have saved myself so much time and literally thousands of dollars on expensive therapies and cupboards full of supplements that got me absolutely nowhere. When the body finally feels safe, it can heal. When we experience stressful situations, especially if we have had significant stresses earlier in life, our internal capacity is reduced and we are at risk for it to show up in our body in the form of chronic symptoms, disease and pain. Have you ever tried cutting out foods or activities that seem to bring on your symptoms and still not felt any better? Yeah, me too and that just shrinks your world and is no way to live. The reason the activity or food avoidance doesn’t seem to help is because they are not actually driving the problem. The imbalance lies even deeper and is very often not genetic but energetic. The vital force becomes overloaded and often there’s a misfire happening in the brain and it begins to respond to normal everyday stimuli as dangerous when they are not. No, you’re not allergic to every food under the sun. it’s your nervous system stuck in stress pathology. Address that and healing naturally unfolds.
Kyndred Wellness was created to naturally help women navigate holistic wellness and chronic symptoms and to provide the personalised care, support and understanding they’ve been craving but may not have received. We actually listen and everything we do is highly individualised to your unique journey with reverence for the nervous system and the wisdom that lies beneath your symptoms. I am so deeply passionate about the mindbody connection because I experienced it and now see how often other people override their bodies instead of listening to them — often pushing past their daily needs and ignoring their body’s cues. Through my health consultations I look at the why behind your symptoms and I’m also searching for inherited issues, subconscious and physiological patterns, stress responses and signals your body holds - so you can move towards real well-being. Your nervous system underpins how your body responds to stress, symptoms and healing. Our bodies cannot heal in survival mode that’s why you try everything and nothing seems to work. Navigating chronic health issues is a difficult, complex and challenging experience. As a professional Homeopath and specialist in all things MCAS, mind-body medicine and chronic illness I understand this process. I bring my lived expertise, professional training and mountains of compassion to help guide you back to vibrant health one step at a time. With tailored support and a concise treatment plan it is possible to get back on track, no matter how far gone you believe yourself to be.
Ready to see if homeopathy is right for you too?
My Goals
To empower and support women and their families to heal at home naturally and ease the burden on hospitals so they can focus on what they do best, life saving surgery and emergency care
To help chronic symptoms sufferers to learn to trust their body and its ability to heal so they can navigate symptoms with far less fear and financial strain
To put homeopathy back at the forefront of medicine by providing each family with a kit so homeopathy stands where it belongs as the number one treatment to turn to in times of need leaving pharmaceuticals as a last resort not a first choice
To help my clients to feel seen, heard and supported instead of feeling fobbed off or told that their symptoms are “all in their head” and for them to understand and trust the language of their body and the power their nervous system holds in helping them to recover from chronic illnesses
THE MIND-BODY CONNECTION
ITS SIGNIFICANT LINK TO VITAL HEALTH
There’s no question that the mind impacts the body. A feeling of embarrassment can flush our cheeks, a thought of biting into a lemon is enough to make you actually begin to salivate and the experience of public speaking can cause butterflies in your tummy. These are all examples of physiological adaptations to your thoughts. All of these things occur because thoughts, feelings, ideas, beliefs and expectations in a persons mind produce a series of chemical and biological changes that result in a physical effect. The latest scientific discoveries are revealing that stress and negative thinking causes long term changes and disease in our body. A recent scientific study by Pennebaker demonstrated that individuals who repress their emotions also suppress their body’s immunity, making them far more vulnerable to a variety of illnesses ranging from a simple common cold to cancer. Molecules known as neuropeptides link our thoughts and emotions to every single part of our bodies. The mind-body connection is not spiritual fallacy. It is now scientific fact. Proven time and again. It confirms what the ancients have already known for a long time. Disease often starts on an emotional/energetic level before physical manifestation appears. When you have spent your entire life avoiding your body’s messages you can’t be too surprised when sooner or later you are consumed by a variety of symptoms.
Sadly, as chronic illness becomes more prevalent, people don’t understand the origins of chronic pain or health issues and are looking for answers in all of the wrong places. The amount of chronic issues is growing and becoming all too common. In Australia, at least 1 in every 10 children under the age of 14 has a chronic health condition and these figures are continuing to trend upwards. We are over stressed, under nourished, completely cut off from nature and living in the most toxic conditions ever seen by generations past. We have created a world our nervous system wasn’t designed to live in and cannot keep up with. In the past century, modern life has accelerated at rates not yet witnessed in human history. The result: we’ve created a world full of disconnect, from self, others and nature. We are overwhelmed, overstimulated, overworked and completely and totally dysregulated right down to the cell. We are full of toxins from our food and our environment making us inflamed and we bury our emotions alive. Our biology is no longer able to sustain us because it just cant adapt quick enough. So what can we do? We need to slow down. We need to invite in more calm, safety, nourishment, rest, connection and nature.
Chronic pain, illness and disease are the result of a body in chronic stress pathology. Pinpointing where that stress is/has come from is key in healing. The reason for this is that a body in a chronic stress response doesn’t put energy toward healing or regeneration. Its only concern is survival. This is often times why fertility is greatly effected as well, the body just isn’t focused on procreation when its worried about survival. Rest is a key ingredient in the recipe to good health. It’s during rest that the body heals, repairs and rejuvenates itself. The inclination towards seeking pharmaceutical relief over a cure often stems from the fact that finding a quick fix doesn’t demand the same level of introspection and deep healing work that pursuing a genuine cure does. Opting for relief allows one to bypass the need for significant personal change. Popping a pill is easy. Uncovering true healing requires a willingness to step back and acknowledge the profound connection between one’s own thoughts, emotions, traumas, behaviours and their impact on both their mental and physical health. Repressed emotions are one of the most common reasons people get sick, stay sick or never achieve optimal health. This is because they trigger the body’s fight or flight response which over time causes nervous system dysregulation. When it remains in this mode chronically, your body is literally breaking down faster than it can repair itself which makes healing nearly impossible. Slowing down, learning to rest and processing your emotions accelerates healing.
“The sorrow which has no vent in tears may make other organs weep”
Physical symptoms carry emotional messages
Symptoms Are a Form of Communication
Are you listening?
When unexpressed emotions get stuffed down the body will express this disharmony through uncomfortable symptoms. The current allopathic healthcare model encourages suppression which is the opposite of what the body is actually trying to do to bring back balance to its delicate system. When we suppress these natural functions the imbalance gets driven deeper into a persons pathology creating a worsening of symptoms or illness. With this oppositional force it’s no wonder we’re facing a crisis of chronic health issues. When fever strikes you are given pain relief to stop the fever. Anti-inflammatories to stop swelling if you sprain your ankle or if you experience hayfever you are given antihistamines to stop the sneezing. These processes however uncomfortable or inconvenient are your body’s natural way of healing. Fever is your body’s way of burning off the invaders trying to take over leading to faster healing and an improved immune system, swelling to an injury site brings an increase in white blood cells, nutrients and platelets to repair the tissue itself and sneezing helps to clear out the allergens with the mucous as a means to purge out irritants. The body is wise and knows exactly what it needs to do to heal, sadly it’s something we’ve come to forget. We are not carelessly designed creatures. Everything about us has purpose, logic and intelligence built into it including how and why we become ill. You never have to think about healing a cut on your hand as the wisdom of your body takes over and does the repair process for you. Symptoms are much like this however can sometimes become stuck and chronic when there is toxicity, trauma or imbalance in the mind or body.
Modern medicine when taken in times of true necessity can be incredibly helpful however we’ve come to live in a way so that whenever a symptom arises we pop a pill and silence the language of our body almost immediately before reaching for anything else. If symptoms remain chronic we end up staying on that pill long-term. I like to liken this effect to your body being like a fire alarm and modern medicine is like taking the batteries out of the alarm while sitting amongst the flames. While you can get relief from symptoms temporarily you have done nothing to address the reason or cause for the fire in the first place. You can do this for a little while but if the symptoms remain chronic the body will almost always turn those whispers of discomfort into loud screams begging for your care and attention and this is when chronic illness or deeper disease pathology strikes. Up to 80% of children that have eczema for example will go on to develop allergies and asthma. Through a homeopathic lens this is because the eczema was suppressed with steroids therefore driven deeper into the body taking up residence in the lungs. For many, the screams of our body appear like chronic fatigue that leaves you unable to get out of bed, the fibromyalgia that causes you to stop everything or it’s the cancer diagnosis that strikes completely out of the blue forcing you to finally listen.
Homeopathy doesn’t suppress, it supports and recalibrates the vital force (our innate healing intelligence).
Homeopathy goes deeper than any other healing modality I have found to date. To give you an idea of how deep, in a consult we go over your entire medical history, your family medical backstory, what your childhood looked like, your emotional landscape, any traumas experienced over the course of your life. We dig deep into your inner world of dreams, beliefs, sleep, digestive habits, the effects the weather has on you, your food cravings, bad habits — digging and searching for clues as to ‘Why is this so?”. Once this is done I can pour over your case doing my detective work to find the ‘red thread’ searching for the patterns and imbalances and connecting the dots. I have over 8,000 remedies I could prescribe so asking lots of questions and getting as much information about you as I can, can help me to differentiate which exact one you need to bring you back to balance and vibrant health. I recommend everyone serious about their health to purchase my Foundational Restore package that includes a minimum of one initial appointment and two follow ups. This will ensure we see progress and gives you three months of one-on-one treatment time with me to get you back on track and feeling great.
“Unexpressed emotions will never die, they will come forth later in uglier ways.”
“The long term benefit of homeopathy to the patient is that it not only alleviates the presenting symptoms but it reestablishes internal order at the deepest levels and thereby provides a lasting cure ”